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Managing Boundaries Around the Holidays

Managing Boundaries Around the Holidays

By Jamie Schrager, PsyD

The holiday season can be filled with excitement, tradition, and opportunities to connect. But, between family expectations, packed schedules, and children’s heightened emotions, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. That’s why boundaries are so important at this time of year.

Boundaries are not walls as much as they are guideposts that help families prioritize and protect what matters most. They create space for rest, connection, and joy, and give kids clear signals about what’s important.

Here are some ways your family can practice healthy boundaries this season:

1. Choose your “must-dos”: Sit down as a family and decide which of the 2–3 holiday activities matter most to you. Maybe it’s baking cookies, attending a special event, or watching a favorite movie. Prioritize those, and give yourself permission to say no to the rest. Kids feel secure when they see adults modeling that not everything can fit, and that’s okay.

2. Protect downtime: Holiday calendars fill quickly, but children (and adults!) need breaks to recharge. Mark off downtime on the calendar, just like you would a party or event. Protecting rest helps prevent meltdowns, overstimulation, and burnout.

3. Practice saying no (together): Role-play with your kids how to kindly decline invitations or requests. For example, “Thank you so much for inviting us! We’d love to, but we’re keeping this weekend low-key.” Kids learn from watching how you handle limits with kindness and confidence.

4. Honor individual needs: Some children thrive in large gatherings, while others need quiet breaks. Make a plan ahead of time: bring headphones, identify a quiet space, or set time limits for social events. Remind kids it’s okay to step away and recharge.

5. Keep routines steady (when you can): Bedtimes, meals, and daily rituals are anchors. Even when schedules get busy, keeping a few consistent routines can help children feel grounded during an exciting and sometimes overwhelming season.

The holidays are not about doing everything — they’re about doing what matters most. By setting boundaries with warmth and clarity, families can create holidays that feel joyful, connected, and calm.

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